Increasing Your Interdependence
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Helping

To help others walk their path, you need to help them process life. Life is a roller coaster, and success doesn't mean a smooth life except in a fairy tale. Success means being able to make it through the tough times, because we have become more than the problems that address us. The Chinese symbol for 'crisis' is the combination of the symbols for 'danger' and 'opportunity'. Truly a crisis is a dangerous opportunity. Yet, which half do you lean toward? Which half do you prepare for? A falling sky is awful, yet if you entered the roofing business ... ;-)

Did you ever realize that education and indoctrination are both very common and are supposed to be very different from each other? If you go back to the root words of each, you find something interesting. the second syllable of each word comes from the ancient word "duce", which means flow. We get words and phrases like "air duct" "duct tape" and "viaduct" from the same place. The big difference is in the root words for the first syllable, as they are OPPOSITES! "e" or "ex" means outward (like "exit") and "in" means inward (like "into"). So indoctrination focuses on filling you with something, and education, in theory, focuses on pulling something out of you. Aristotle was a master of education, in that he had his students come up with the answers by forcing them to use their own resources, which included each other. Looking at public education today, in my country, we have a system of indoctrination, which is labeled education. No wonder suicide and crime is up, people have not been taught to pull out their own resources. They have been fed cake, instead.

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The Cold Within, a poem, author unknown Look what happens when we stay self-centered despite everything going on around us. This shows the main reason we need to be, at times, 'un-self-centered'.

Need versus Want versus Ready-for What is best to tell people? What you think they need to hear? What they think they want to hear? Or, what God knows they are ready to hear?

Christmas 1980 My Christmas was going terrible, but theirs was worse. Until we all got together!

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The Art of Helping, by Robert R. Carkhuff If they need a listener, if you want to help them through tough calls, this is it!

Bringing Out the Best in People, by Alan Loy McGinnis I've used this as a manager, naval leader, counselor, father, and co-worker. Very good stuff!

Befriending

To impact the huge amount of loneliness around you, befriend. The concept of the 'self-made man' is a sad joke. No company founder did 100% of the work at their company, they had great help and great employees in order to achieve what they did. No general pulled every trigger, no ball player scored all the runs or made all the great plays for their team. It takes a team in sports, (even in individual sports the great ones all have a personal coach or two) and it takes a team, and maybe even a coach or two, in life.

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The Vowels of Friendship A Sunday School lesson from long ago. I taught it to a class of about 100 young adults, all single, all aged 25 to 35.

The Desiderata. A wonderful outlook on life, which has many references to the way we deal with other people.

Books
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The Friendship Factor It explains what people that have many friends do to be that way! I wanted to learn!

How to Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie Systematic, organized, detailed. All those things I am not by nature. This goes over many things, and has sold millions of copies worldwide. I often re-read it, but not often enough!

The Art of Helping If they need a listener, if you want to help them through tough calls, this is it! Here's how to help them AND help them keep being responsible, too!